Identify Who YOU Want to Become!

As I listened to this Podcast today, the discussion was on The Trauma of Mothers Who Hate Their Daughters.  Sounds tragic and an utterly disgusting topic in my thoughts, but I continued my review.  The podcast wasn’t very long, just slightly over an hour.  Initially, I was in utter shock and disagreement with every single word that crept from the mouth of the host and her guest.  To some extent I began to close my thoughts on the entire conversation.  Something kept me intrigued and I continued through until the end.

In the discussion, the host and her guest discussed the trauma that ensued in their lives because of the lack of commitment and “love” that they garnered from their relationship with their mothers.  The guest pointed out that she had not been in contact with her mother for almost a decade.  How tragic I thought. 

The podcast went on to talk about how we are emotionally crippled from the behaviors of our mothers. That in many cases, the lack of emotional connection, the negative conversation, and the outward forms of jealousy have impacted our go forward ability to love and nurture in the appropriate capacity to our children.  Basically, lending to the concept of “generational trauma”. 

Before, this commentary, I held steadfast to the belief that generational trauma existed, that we all have experienced some form of instability in our lives, and that we carry a lot of that through our relationships and our communications with our children, our mates, our outward relationships, and obviously our work environments without the ability to recognize where it generates.  In most cases, I still hold to this belief. 

Our parents and our past generations had no idea of the opportunity and the options they had in front of them.  We/them have been so conditioned to believe that what is in front of us is all there is.  We/them often get very uncomfortable with something that we can’t imagine.  Something we can’t see. In that, we can’t imagine anything greater.  The concept of “doing the best she can” is the excuse.  So, there is the place for forgiving in a form.

The podcast subject led us to believe that we were making excuses for what happened or in most cases didn’t happen.  Aren’t we still searching for a place to lay blame?  Aren’t we aligning our expectations with someone other than ourselves?  I am not sure that I felt the same chemistry about the conversation in this podcast.  In many ways, I could easily relate, but in other ways, I observed a conversation that indicated there is still “This Way”.  This is the right way.  This is how we break the generational curses.  In reality, who knows what exactly what right is and who has the right answer.  There really isn’t one concept or one idea that can potentially answer the questions to all the issues that come out of the generations of hurt, distortion and abuse that has occurred.  Furthermore, we don’t have a response to the complexity of the learned behaviors and the expectations.  There is no one complete solution.  It’s about peace.  Your personal peace validates your journey. 

It's hard to understand what this transformation represents for everyone.  The Women’s Experience Network and the Authentic Woman work constantly to help us regain the peace to continue our strengthening journey.  That is ultimately what our goal is.  Not to point blame.  Not to assign ownership.  To align acceptance and move forward in an energy that helps you expand your global health.  In the next generations, they may feel the exact same way we all feel now about what has happened in our past, so we need to develop tools and skills that help them align their acceptance and move forward in their energy as well.

Learn more at “Push Through YOUr Trauma”