One Thought at a Time...

How to Recognize, Release, and Replace the Inner Stories That Shape Your Life

How Many Negative Thoughts Do We Have in a Day—and Why It Matters for Healing

You may be surprised to learn that the average human mind produces anywhere from 60,000 to 80,000 thoughts per day. Research suggests that up to 70–80% of those thoughts are negative, and many are repetitions of the same fears, worries, and self-doubts from the day before.

That means most of us are unconsciously replaying a loop of:

“I’m not enough.”

“I always mess things up.”

“Why can’t I get ahead?”

“Something bad is going to happen.”

Over and over again.

For women who have experienced trauma, loss, emotional hardship, or years of putting everyone else first, this internal dialogue can be even louder. The mind becomes trained to scan for danger, disappointment, and failure. What once served as protection becomes a daily burden.

These thoughts do not mean you are broken. They mean you are human—and likely tired.

Negative thoughts are not the enemy. They are signals. They are echoes of past experiences. They are stories your nervous system learned in order to survive. But when they go unexamined, they quietly shape your reality.

Your brain believes what it hears most often.

So, if the inner voice says, “You’ll never succeed,” the body responds with hesitation. If it says, “You don’t deserve rest,” you keep pushing until burnout. If it says, “You’re behind in life,” you live in constant urgency and shame.

This is why healing is not about forcing positivity. It’s about becoming aware.

Awareness is the moment you catch a thought and gently ask:

“Is this true?”

“Is this kind?”

“Is this helping me grow?”

That pause is powerful.

You don’t need to eliminate every negative thought. You simply need to stop letting them run your life without your consent.

Think of your mind as a room full of voices. Some are wounded. Some are afraid. Some are wise. Healing is learning to choose which ones get the microphone.

Micro-shifts create macro change.

A single replaced thought—“I’m doing the best I can.”“I’m allowed to grow slowly.”

“This moment does not define me.”

—can soften your nervous system, change your behavior, and open space for peace.

This is the heart of the work we do here: helping women notice, question, and gently rewire the internal stories that keep them stuck.

You are not your thoughts. You are the one who hears them.

And the moment you realize that—you begin to heal.

One Thought at a Time!

Read the full micro - eBook and Order it Here